It was all going swimmingly until I had to send the invites out and got bombarded by my mom AND my future mother-in-law to invite way more people than I intended. How many more people? Like, maybe 10. But for me, this was supposed to be a small celebration with 10 people max, including us.
Then my mom offered to help with some funding, so I added 10 more. So the count was 20.
THEN my mother-in-law wanted to invite more people. Financially, she is not in the position to be giving me the addresses of people I have never met, that my fiance knows, and that he didn’t even care enough to mention when we did our initial invite? So how important are they?
His godparents, I never met, I cannot hold them against anything. They seem like nice people, they live a state over in Wisconsin. As far as I was aware though, those aren’t his godparents – but his brother’s. Or he could never remember. So, these people ended up taking care of him for several years due to some hilarious and fucked up situations, but during the initial 10 invites- 20 even – they were not mentioned by him.
But then, there’s this mess of a woman who has just been … a mess? I met her once or twice. She has probably made some bad decisions in her life, but who hasn’t? I had the great misfortune of once meeting one of her daughters who kept talking about her yeast infection the entire day, then apparently now, she’s run away from home after having her first (or second?) baby, and she’s not even 18 yet? Who… DOES that? That’s not a reflection of this woman, perhaps, but she’s not somebody I’d want around me personally.
But yeah, not like my dumbass is any better. I can’t stand up for myself. I know it’s going to blow up in my face when I decide to tell Andrew I don’t want somebody to come, and then “Why didn’t you tell me earlier?” and “Because they’re your people, not mine!” etc.
So, what do I do now?
If people are going to give me money to pay for this wedding, like my mom, I don’t mind inviting people, especially since they were just family that got pushed to the wayside because of finances. But now, this seems to be getting out of hand. Do I hate my fiance’s family? What is this? Nothing has gone to plan.
First the shitty weight gain and wedding dress size up and now this?
And what’s next, suddenly people will want me to shower them in presents and praise for even attending? I wish I didn’t even have a stupid wedding.